Dear Victoria

By Victoria Howard

Dear Victoria,

I am a 35-year-old man, who is looking for a woman to settle down with. I have a good career, own my own house, and have been told that I’m very good looking.

I go to the local clubs, have done the ‘internet dating’ scene, and have dated about 50 women since I moved here from Wisconsin three years ago.

They seem to only be interested in what I can do and give them. Where I come from, women want to settle down and have kids. It seems that the ones I’ve been meeting only want me to keep them in a certain lifestyle.

Any suggestions?

A Mid-West kind of guy

As I wrote in my book “Why Women Love Bad Boys”: you are looking for love in all the wrong places.

Going to bars is not the place to go. Don’t get me wrong. It’s all right to go to a nice club or upscale bar. But finding a woman there to settle down with and be the mother of your children is like finding a needle in the haystack.

I speak from personal experience. I’ve ‘been there and done that’, too, and all I found was someone looking for a one nighter.

Try joining a local singles group, or maybe a charity. The best place to find Mr. or Ms. Right is through an introduction. Stand your ground and have patience. Some nice woman is out there looking for a nice man.

Good luck,

Victoria