Dear Victoria

By Victoria Howard

Dear Victoria,

I am a forty-eight-year old divorced woman who is alone, and hates it. After my divorce eight years ago, I felt like a bird that was let out of its cage. I dated many men and had my share of fun.

I thought I would never want to re-marry again, after the abusive marriage I was in. But as time goes on, I realize it is not fun being alone. I have been to charity events, clubs, and have even tried the Internet scene.

I just can’t seem to find someone that I want to grow old with. Do you have any suggestions?

Looking for ‘Mr. Right’

Dear looking for ‘Mr. Right’,

First of all, don’t feel like you’re all alone. There are millions of women who are in the same boat as you. (And men)

When you hit a certain age, it definitely gets harder to find that special someone. It’s possible to find him (or her) in a club or on the internet—but not likely.

Divorcees, widows and women who have never been married, hit a certain age (around fifty) and realize that life is quickly passing by. If they have children, most likely, they have left the house and are on their own. The ‘empty nest syndrome’ hits home, and the woman has nobody who needs them anymore. The past twenty or so years of taking care of their child, has left them with an emptiness that cannot be filled.

If the right man comes along; great! But don’t settle for ‘Mr. Wrong’ just to find out that you have once again made another mistake.

Volunteer at a shelter or hospital, where you can feel good about yourself and feel needed. If it’s meant to be, the right man will find you.