Dear Victoria

By Victoria Howard

Dear Victoria,

I think I may be living with a man who is in one of the chapters in your book: the “man with the wandering eyes”.
Joey is a handsome thirty-year-old attorney, who I’ve been living with for the past two years. He is charming, affectionate, and very generous. The only problem we have is that whenever we go out together, he ‘ogles’ every woman around.
It is very embarrassing and hurtful. When I tell him to stop, he says “I’m allowed to look—as long as I don’t touch”. What can I do? Should I ignore him, look at men to get even, or as you say “kick him to the curb”? I really love him, but can’t take much more.

In love with an Ogler

Dear 'in love with an Ogler',

The 'man with the wandering eyes' is a person who is constantly using his telescopic, optical organs to zoom in on any object that has two legs and two breasts.

If you are with a man who scopes the room like a captain on a ship that is in a storm ---kick him to the curb!

There is nothing worse than being with a man with wandering eyes. It is far the cruelest and most inconsiderate thing a man can do to a woman. A man like this does not respect you.

If you want to remain in this uncomfortable relationship,(and knowing he probably will never change), there is one thing:
In forty years from now his eyesight will worsen. He will probably start wearing glasses, and the women he looks at will be no threat.  

After all-- who wants a seventy-year-old man who wears glasses, and has an optical disease?

Victoria