Dear Victoria

By Victoria Howard

Dear Victoria,
 
I have a situation that is embarrassing and too humiliating. I am a college student who is ‘lost in a gender’. What I mean is that I was born a man, but I prefer to dress like a woman.

I have been dating a young woman named Gina, for 2 years now. She is gorgeous and we really get along well. Lately I have been having trouble getting aroused. She is every mans dream and an 11 on a scale of 1 to 10.

After I take her home, I put on a pair of woman’s panties and a sexy padded bra, and BINGO—I am excited. I am too embarrassed to see a therapist with this situation. I mean, I am the stud, on the football team and the man’s man in our group at school.Help—does this mean I am a closet gay, a transvestite or what?

A man in a womans body

Dear ‘a man in a womans body’,

In answering your question; Yes, you do have a situation that needs to be addressed . There is no choice here. You definitely have a problem with gender identification. And believe it or not, you are not alone.

There is a major concern today with many young people, (both men and women) who have a problem with gender identification. You need to seek a good therapist who specializes in this field (preferable a man who you feel comfortable with).

You may be going through a phase that will pass. The quicker you get good therapy, the better you will be able to confront and solve this uncomfortable situation.

Good luck,